TIPS FOR MANAGING THE CHAOS AFTER A LIFE TRANSITION OR LOSS
“The irony of GRIEF is that the person that you need to talk to about how you feel is the person that is no longer here”
“From Great Loss to Leading the Lost“, our Podcast Show this week with Esther Pipoly from LOLA, Loss of Life Advocates was extraordinary to say the least! It was interesting and exuberating on the fire and passion that Esther has to help people!
““Sixty-three days is all it took for my life to turn completely upside down. It’s the number of days that passed between the death of my father, and the death of my husband. In just over two months, I became a fatherless widow and a single mother, and the grief was overwhelming.”
“Esther Pipoly had just moved to Denver to begin a new job and help her husband, Carl, transition into the retirement that he had always dreamed of when he was diagnosed with incurable, advanced cancer. She had just buried her 81-year-old father, and it was at his funeral that her husband began to complain that he didn’t feel well. Her world collapsed as she watched the man, whom she had loved for over 25 years decline and eventually pass away right before her very eyes. Theirs was a blended family, as Carl was twenty years older than Esther, and he had two grown children from a previous marriage. Esther had a son, Nathan, from an earlier relationship, and together they had a daughter named Adyn.”
“It wasn’t Carl’s physical death, however, that knocked Esther to her knees, it was the aftermath; the disaster of what can happen when someone passes away with no plan in place of what to do next. It was trying to navigate the fallout of her husband’s death that nearly destroyed Esther. Still, it was also the thing that educated, inspired, and moved her to create the business she runs today to help other individuals and families plan for life’s inevitable, but sometimes unexpected end.”
“Loss of Life Advocates (LOLA) was created by Esther Pipoly so that those who lose a loved one can have access to experts in the business of closing out life’s affairs. In 26 years, Esther never took an active role in financial or business decisions. She states, “After I lost my husband and father, I spent so much time searching for help. I was emotionally and financially paralyzed, and left with having to close down two estates, as well as go through legal battles. I created LOLA so I could hold the flashlight for you; so that you would have someone to guide you through the maze of all that happens before and after a loss.””
“Esther’s story is gut-wrenching and unsettling. Death can happen to anyone at any time. Nobody is promised tomorrow, and regardless of what your religious or personal beliefs about death may be, we can all agree that we will all come to the end of our lives eventually. Would your loved ones know what to do when the time comes? Will they know what your wishes are and how you would want medical directions to be played out? Does someone trustworthy know where your sensitive financial documents are located? Do you have enough insurance to cover those who depend on you financially?”
“There are so many issues that we don’t think about. Esther has created a program that handles every element, and every situation that might occur when a loved one dies. She and her team do it with caring and compassion.”
“Navigating the dynamics of a blended family when the father/stepfather dies has been challenging. Unfortunately, she had to learn everything by trial and error, and it took quite a toll on her life. Still, through every sleepless night, every tear, and disappointment, she was rebuilding herself, and creating a vision to help others navigate the business of death with a clear plan and a caring guide who has been there.”
“My ultimate wish is for families to begin accumulating their information so that when an untimely death or event does occur, everything is securely organized and accessible for their loved ones.”
“No one likes to think about their death or the deaths of loved ones, but it will happen to all of us one day. Esther’s life purpose was realized during the most challenging period of her life but she turned it into a positive resource with real-life solutions for others.”” ~ https://www.lossoflifeadvocates.com/
It is sure nice to find others that are preaching as much as I am!! LOL
Because it’s true! We need to have a solution for those around us to know that everything will be in 1-place when some Storm hits! Because we need to have a way to find all of that stuff that no one seems to have organized in any order or in the right places! I have found documents at client’s homes in drawers, closets, the kitchen cupboards, the front closet, the bathroom, the magazine rack, the garbage can, the office, the filing cabinet, the walk-in-closet, the safety deposit box, the safe, and the garage too. That’s probably not all of the places but I’m sure it’s the majority of them. So, how on earth without taking days, weeks, and months and sometimes years to find all of this documentation when we need it? Well, my first question to you is, “how do you know what documents will be needed?”
You really don’t know the documents that you will need until you have actually gone through a family member’s probate or sickness. It seems we only think of 4-5 things that we need, and I’m sure we do definitely but there are so many more we need than that! Especially Digital now! We have a whole lot of Digital assets that we were unaware of. So, what does the family do trying to find the person’s digital assets? Hmmm……………..
Well, Social media accounts will need passwords and account sign-ins. Otherwise it’s not uncommon for the companies to request a COURT ORDER. So, as you can see there are a lot of accounts that you or your loved ones have that aren’t going to be able to close or will get hacked at some point by leaving them vulnerable or there is a loss of unclaimed monies to those accounts.
By going through our new Blueprint Program, YOUR BACKUP PLAN will be offering a new program, www.theemergingblueprint.com to guide you through the steps to put all those Digital accounts, login’s and programs into 1-place so that your family can easily find it. There are a full Library of Videos with Step-by-step instructions, interviews as well as fun and educational videos on how to read statements, fill out forms, creating a Treasure box and how to hold a family meeting. Stay Tuned!!
You can reach Esther Pipoly, LOLA, Loss of Life Advocates
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