LIFE AFTER A CAR ACCIDENT MAKES YOU REALIZE HOW PRECIOUS LIFE IS
Life after a car accident makes you realize how precious life is and will bring you to your knees, in full of recovery, grief and depression. Don’t ever think it’s easy!
“Decisions can be like car accidents, sudden and full of consequences.” Allison Glock
So our wonderful guest is of course from Greece. I’d love to go there. But she’s actually in Thunder Bay, Ontario. What a switch from Greece to Thunder Bay. You couldn’t be any further north.
I know. I know. hates it. But it’s lovely here where I am. It’s a beautiful area. And I’m very fortunate to be here. It’s beautiful. Just beautiful. Different different. But yes, beautiful.
Our wonderful guests, Anastasia. I’m not sure if I said that. Right. When you said the other name. Yes. Yes. Canadian problem. It’s everywhere. Don’t worry. panacea is a podcaster. And of course, the beautiful artists with her photos. I don’t know how to there. There we go right there. It’s so funny. When I put my hand up in the screen. It looks like this fake arm. It’s like this magnifying huge arm that goes across the screen. She has a beautiful artist, as you can see a road safety advocator. Of course, for all of this and a pastry chef from from Greece.
Life after a car accident makes you realize how precious life is to make that impact, that euphony moment, changes your life forever
Wow. I can’t wait to hear hear your story. our listeners are going to be blown away from the story. And I really want you to listen with both your ears today. Because it’s quite an incredible story of how she has been able to take something so negative into something so positive and, and the courage and the bravery that you have taken to come on these shows is unbelievable. And I have to give you credit, where credit is due. It’s It’s really beautiful, how you’re trying to help other people. So thank you very, very much. And yeah, where did it all start for you?
Thank you, first of all for having me over. And when you say about strength, I think the message that I want to bring out through sharing my experience is what gives me the drive to you know, be strong and share what actually happened on that day. So what happened and we’ll drive right in instead of diving. It was a summer it was a beautiful, beautiful summer day in Greece. And for those people that have been to Greece, they know how hot and warm and beautiful it is during summer so it was called goose Agus five.
And I was working. I was running two businesses when I was one business with juice two shops when I was 23 years old. At the time, and I went to work, and that Sunday morning, I did some cake decoration, the decorating that I had to do for weddings and I finished everything because I was so excited. I wanted to go to the beach was so warm, so hot. And me and my husband, I was married at the time, we had the we made plans with another couple very close friend, friends of ours to go to the beach.
So we made all those plans on Wednesday, actually, they were at my place at Wednesday hadn’t dinner, and then we said, Oh yeah, why not spend Sunday at the beach, it’s gonna be warm. We can take some time off. We deserve. We’re working all day. So that’s what we planned to go to the beach, relax, have fun, enjoy yourselves and then return home. I was 23 years old at the time, my husband was 26 and the couple my friends. So theory NFV. They were 26 and 29. And they also had two children, young, very young children at the time. So Sunday came as I said, I went to work I did all my work. I was happy excited. When to my place. God changed my swimming stuff on and everything ready.
So there we were four people, four young people, two couples. Yeah. We got in the car. He was three door vehicle. I don’t know how you call them here in Canada. That’s how we call them in Greece anyway. So there were no there were no doors in the in the for the passengers. The back. My husband was driving. I was sitting beside him as a co driver and the passenger’s seats were my friends behind me was my friend. So theory and next to him his wife, fa he was around noon, we started about 1130 I think so we headed to to the beach. And it’s a lovely place. It’s called halkidiki. And it’s very popular. During summer, everyone from my hometown, and my hometown is the Salonika and it’s over a million people. And everyone is going to help give a kid during the weekend. So you can imagine how how busy the roads were very heavy traffic. So at some point, my husband decided to change his road and go through a country road, which was more narrow, and he was full of turns, you know.
And that’s what we did. But he was speeding. And he wasn’t beautiful day, like we were so happy. we’re chatting the car and I can remember every single moment and we’re just so excited. And the thing is that they were supposed to have their children with them that day. So that was that was our original plan. They will drive with their car with children, and we will drive our car. And we’re both go to the same destination of cash. And then they decided no, let’s let’s have one totally free day of children of work just to enjoy ourselves. And then they decided not to take the children. And that’s that’s how the decision came. So we can we drove all four of us one vehicle. So as we’re driving in that country road, and he was speeding my husband, he was speeding through the time. And you know about age 23 years old. You don’t you don’t see what’s coming?
Well, you don’t have the same fear. Right? Don’t you? Don’t you find that? Yes. Yeah, like, a lot more. I don’t know if you gain the wisdom or what it is. But you have more fear and you’re not so risky. That you will you actually are risky without knowing that you’re taking this. Right. Yeah, yeah, realize, and that’s how I feel today, going back to that day. I’m thinking that I, I could see that he was speeding, why wasn’t my saints saying something before?
What because I, I couldn’t foresee the future with you know, with his driving habits if I can say that. So I remember that he was speeding, and I did get scared at some point. And I knew that my friend Effie, she was scared of speeding and I asked him to slow down. I did ask him wants to slow down. And he did for a while but he didn’t really like just hitting the brakes. When I told him it’s not enough. You need to actually stop, slow down completely. And just, if you have to stop your car, just stop your car and give yourself some, you know, a few minutes to get out of that situation that you are. You know, you just take that route of speeding and you don’t stop. It’s like, I don’t know. I don’t know how to explain it, really. But I asked when you’re in the moment, it’s it’s, you know, of course you do it differently now, right. If what when you know, but the lessons? Yeah.
So as we’re going as we’re driving, I asked him to slow down he did for a while, but then he picked up the same speed started overtaking every vehicle that was in front of him. Just wanted to reach this destination faster. I don’t know. And I remember. I remember we’re laughing. Because all four of us we were basically not thinking. Yeah, so you’re just having fun. Yeah, yeah. So remember, at some point, I turn around I was laughing with my with Effie was were chatting and laughing. And as I was looking at her, I felt I felt the tension I felt the car because he hit the brakes. But you know, you can you can sense that something is not right. And I did. And what proved it even more was a face to face, because she could see what was coming. I had my head turned. By the time I turned my head. I saw that we were there was another vehicle coming to our direction. And then he turned his wheel, the steering wheel and because he was speeding so much, and he panicked and didn’t know how to react. He lost control of the car, and we ended up falling into a ditch. That was about six, seven meters high. And the car flipped. He did some turns, did you go down the passenger side or the driver’s side out of the passenger? The passenger side.
So we didn’t, we didn’t crash with any other vehicle. He turned the wheel to avoid the car because he was in the middle of overtaking another vehicle. So he was halfway overtaking another vehicle. And then he saw another car coming from the opposite side because there was turns so he didn’t have he was speeding. He wasn’t supposed to overtake the car because it wasn’t. There were rules that you were not supposed to overtake in a vehicle at that particular section. Exactly. And the visibility was not good at all. So he did three things that he shouldn’t do that day. And that moment. On that day he did more. But on that moment there are these two things that he shouldn’t speeding and overtaking that vehicle because the visibility was not good. We saw the other car coming. He turned the steering wheel we fell into the beach.
And I remember having the you know the seatbelt because I was wearing my seatbelt. Literally crashing on my on my chest. I could feel the tension on my chest. I didn’t realize that the car flipped because everything happened so fast. I didn’t even know that the car flipped. But were you upside down at the time? No, you landed we landed right? up right? Yes. But the doors we couldn’t open the doors because they were jammed from the car flipping. And with the moment the car hit the ground. It caught fire. And it was a warm day as I said the windows were closed because we had the air conditioner on and once the car hit ground, it caught fire in the gap cabin of the vehicle. He wasn’t around the vehicle. He was in the cabin of the vehicle the doors running open everywhere. It’s like he was surrounding us. I can I can. I can feel I can still remember the feelings that I had.
Everything went silent and he wasn’t because I couldn’t hear anything. But you know when the fire is, you know that sound that the fire has and he was sucking up the air. So it was like it was like I was diving deep into the cedar. Yeah. I wish I was but it wasn’t, you know, no one was and so there were four, four young people burning alive in that vehicle because they’re trapped and I tried to open my door my door wouldn’t open And we were lucky. If you can call that luck. I guess we were the drivers that were opened. Finally. I don’t know how much time it took probably a few minutes not even mean it seemed like forever. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Because you can feel the heat. You can. It was just, I was just panicking. I was screaming, screaming, I remember that. And I couldn’t even hear my voice. You know, I couldn’t even hear my voice from, from what I was experiencing that moment was on my house, screaming Do you remember? I couldn’t hear anything. Now. I couldn’t hear anything. And I don’t know if it was the flames and the sound of the flames or if it was my panic, or I don’t know.
But I remember. I remember screaming. I remember screaming. And I just couldn’t hear anything. So the driver got out of the car. And then my friend Effie that was sitting behind him, she got out after him. And then I crawled over to his side. And I got out too. But as I was crawling, I tried to reach my friend that was behind me. Her husband, her husband. Yeah, he wasn’t moving. So I got out of the car. And that’s that was it. He never made it out. Realizing that, even to this day, it’s Yes, yes. And because you want to try and get them out. But did anyone else stop? Did anyone see anything to help or anything?
Well, vehicles that were on the same, you know, on the same road with us, they did stop and where we fell where we actually crashed. There was a restaurant type of restaurant there with a pool and it was busy people were there. So they people run to our direction very, very quick. And I remember then, when I got out of the car, I was still inflamed. So I rolled on the grass and was like, I didn’t even know that I had to do that. I was just respond reaction response. Yeah, yeah. So I rolled on the grass. And then someone came and picked me up. I remember I was picked up. And they took me away from the car from fear of having the vehicle explore. Yeah. Which doesn’t happen. It’s not like the movies. It doesn’t happen. Like the movies. Yeah, it doesn’t happen. Like the movies. And I say that to schools when I go and deliver a speech because to raise Road Safety Awareness. You see in the movies, the vehicles are blowing into 1000 pieces, and then the driver will just get out of the car and walk. Yeah. It doesn’t happen this way. What it does, it blows your life into 1000 pieces that it does.
So your your husband at the moment at the time he got out. But was he on the ground as well? Do you remember?
No, he was he was running around the vehicle. And even when I was still in the vehicle, he was outside trying to get my daughter to open that I have that memory. And it was at that moment that he was trying to get my daughter to open he was outside from my side tried to get my daughter to open. And I was taking off my seatbelt. I was kicking the door and I couldn’t open it. It was then that Effie got out after him. And then I just figured out like it was a response. I just crawled over and tried to get out and myself.
And how was she? Was she just laying on the ground? Or did she crawl out and I didn’t see her first moments out of the vehicle when they picked me up to take me away the people that picked me up. They placed me just a few feet away from her. So she was already taken by people I guess. And you know, they were trying to get us away from the car. It was a horrific moment, because I remember we’re both sitting on the ground. My husband was running around the car trying to get to my friend that was still in there. People were trying to keep him away. It’s a it’s graphic. And I think but I think like I’m explaining them every detail. But I think it’s very important for people to listen. The first one is because they hear there’s a crash and people are injured, and they see them with their injuries and it’s very heartbreaking Of course, but those first moments when reality hits, that’s the worst moments.
That’s the worst moments and I think if people listen to those first moments may Maybe they can put themselves in our position and understand how severe it can be a car accident. Yeah. So he was running around. We’re both sitting. Me and my friend were sitting about 10 meters away from the car and I was a few feet away from her and I turned around and I, I looked at her. And I still remember how she looked. She was gray, no color. It was like white, gray. You know, when you get burnt? That’s how you look. I didn’t know that the moment. Yeah. And she was looking directly at the car. She knew her husband was in there. totally shocked. And she was she was like, white paper, white piece of paper with no words on just blank, blank stare. And I asked I told her, will you ever forgive him? That was the words that I said her? Will you ever forgive him? And of course, there was no response. She wouldn’t. She was totally shocked. And yeah, it was a very difficult, but horrific not difficult. It just, I don’t wish anyone to go through what, what she went through what she went through, and then what we went through as well.
Yes, yes. Because it’s not necessarily your husband sitting in that car. But it was hers. But it’s also your friend. So
the pain is that you can’t even describe with words the pain that we that I felt, then. And I can’t even describe what she felt. And it’s very sad. He passed away right away with that impact, because he had the head injuries from what we were told. From the Friday from later date. He wasn’t wearing his seatbelt. Oh, so he had his injuries were fatal from the moment we crossed. That’s why he wasn’t moving on work on train or tried to get right. And my friend Effie she passed away to a few weeks later.
Oh, a few weeks of of her burns or of other things of her burns. Oh, I’m so sorry. That’s horrible. Because you wouldn’t think the fire would be in the back that quickly with you. But it happens like you said it just swarmed you
like the the cabin of the vehicle any vehicles just small fire will surround you. There’s no way Yeah, away from it. Yeah.
That that’s quite an amazing. And you know, when I when I had mine, it wasn’t so much what I saw like you, but it was more of the smell. You know, the smell of the engine of the gas and the engine and it’s and the powder from the airbags. It it’s very eerie. It’s a very eerie feeling and sent well I don’t even remember how their backs popping. You know it did they did but I don’t remember because everything happened so fast. And then you didn’t even have one second in the vehicle not reacting because we had to go out to get out. We’re burning alive teen I was like, yeah, we just had to get out. Yeah, yeah, so smells. I remember just the sound. I remember that. I remember that. I was screaming and I couldn’t hear my voice voice that’s what it’s very to me to these days. How How is it possible not to listen to my voice?
Yeah. Yeah, that’s amazing. Did you get all your burns when you rolled on the ground? Did that all get under fire while
I was out the fire was out when? Yes, but the the injuries were so so so severe. I ended up with 74% burns all over my body hands face, arms, legs, feet. Everything was burned. And your husband my hair? Yeah, like I guess they were burned as well like the next time the the the yeah after my injuries. The next time I saw myself in the mirror. I didn’t have any hair. So but they shaved my head to get the The skin of my head to use it in other parts of my body. Oh, yeah, for skin grafts. So what they do is you get burned and they need skin grafts to cover the, the picture of the body that was injured. To get that skin. They try to get the skin, the healthy skin that’s left on your body. And well, my head wasn’t burned. That’s why they use the they used my head the skin of my head twice from my back once from for my tummy three times my thigh I don’t remember even how many times overtime I think any any part of my body that wasn’t burned, they were taking they’re scraping the skin off. So they can use it on the on the parts that were injured.
That’s really amazing work that they can do for that, isn’t it?
It is it is like medicine. It’s some It’s amazing. Amazing just amazing how they can save lives but they can save every life and they can save my friend’s life. She She was so severely injured on her chest because of the clothes that she was wearing. And the thing with burn sees people might not know it’s not actually the the burns that will put in danger. Put your life in danger. It’s getting infected, first of all the infections. And what the infections do is they make your body overwork. And eventually the organs they can handle. Fight extreme fighting to stay to keep you alive. And that’s how you end up losing your life.
Did she have her seatbelt on them? Is that why she got I was able to get out? Do you know?
I think she had Yeah, she had her seatbelt on? Yes. So that’s why only my friend that was sitting behind me didn’t have his seatbelt law syndrome. Yeah.
So that’s something to tell people?
Absolutely. Absolutely. Always, always wear your seatbelt always. You never know you just never know what can happen in one split second. And that’s, that’s all it takes. That’s all it takes them. You’re the title of your book. Actually, it’s an expression that I use often to, in a blink of an eye. That’s all it takes.
Yeah, it literally looks like when you look behind and then look forward. It’s a blink like the blink of your eye. It just changed. So what about your your husband, who is your now ex husband, but he was injured as well, but not as severe as myself and Effie, he had the burns. But if we if we mentioned numbers that might help our listeners understand I had 74% of burns, f we had 68% and my husband had 44. But out of this 44% 22 was third degree and 22 was second and first degree which is like my face from from my left side it says second, second burns second degree burns and there’s not much scarring there. But my right side third degree and you can see the scars more. So it’s different.
Was that the part where it was more from the car side?
Yeah, because the flames were around us basically in the center of the vehicle. There were no flames. It was all around us. Yeah. That’s quite amazing, isn’t it? How if you could reenact something how something actually happens? You know when you can’t see it.
Exactly. And we have to be what what I’m trying to get out there with my own podcast is that these accidents are preventable. If we drive safe if we try to be safe, we can prevent all these accidents. Or this accident sometimes sometimes Of course we can prevent everything because we are not responsible and we don’t know what the other person is doing. But the main point is that we are all safe drivers to reduce the accidents. But even when we are taking the right precautions and we are more aware we can protect ourselves more.
Well you can do right for for yourself and and hopefully eliminate limit a few of those accidents. Anyways, like you said and and be a better safe driver.
Yes because we are responsible for ourselves. We are responsible for everyone that moves around us as well. Yes, we don’t keep in mind. Yeah, we don’t we don’t we shoot.
Well, will you share them? I, I always thought to you know, you see it a lot with people in the left hand turn lanes, and they turn in front of a car coming straight down. And I don’t understand that because the person coming straight down sees that in the intersection. Usually, I mean, sometimes you wouldn’t. But I just don’t understand why people take chances. And everyone, Senator rush.
Because we think that he won’t happen to us. Yeah. We just think that it’s not going to happen to us. Simple as that.
I say that all the time. You know, everybody, you know, are you Superman? No, but we think we are.
Yeah, and I say that we think that it’s not going to happen to us. And I’m guilty of that, because I thought the same. That’s what I thought, yeah, never crossed my mind that something this horrific can happen to me in one split second with one wrong move. I guess. I never thought.
And especially with your friends around as well, you just realize how precious life truly is. So after you know, their kids are at home, obviously with what happens next after that, I’m sorry to have to bring that part up.
Um, so we were taken to were taken to emergency burns unit in my hometown. And from then on the difficult road to recovery started for me to recover, I recovered, as he tried to recover. Unfortunately, she couldn’t make it. And the doctors did whatever they could, but her and her injuries were so severe.
And were you able to talk to her in the hospital at all intensive care like he was. We’re all in intensive care.
I my I was in the hospital for three months after my accident, having surgeries after surgeries. And on the eighth day, I made a stayed in my hometown for eight days in the ICU. And then my mother, she found out that they had The Undertaker’s on hope for myself and for Effie. And once you realize that, because one of them that was informed, to be close by in case a family needed to the families needed something happened to be my cousin. So they met in the hospital. And when they were discussing why wanting here why they were, you know, at the hospital, and they realized that he was there for me, because they were waiting for me to pass away, to not make it then she just said, Okay, I have to do something. And on her own responsibility. She She made all the arrangements. And then I was moved in UK in the UK for my therapy. So that basically saved my life because they had the knowledge and they had the the tools and all the equipment that they needed. And Greek doctors, they’re good, they have the knowledge but they don’t have the right equipment. And that was a new word. That was a new word that we were taken into. It was like open only for 10 days. So we’re very, very severe injuries that they couldn’t handle. So I was airlifted and taken to the UK and that’s where I had my my therapy and my whole recovery and surgeries and I was named induced coma for some days and I didn’t I couldn’t speak to anyone. I had to try Qian there was no communication. I was just trying to survive. Yeah, it took seven weeks, seven weeks to have the doctor say to my mom that she’s going to make it seven. Wow.
And you’re just basically praying every week to every day, every hour every day. Well. Yeah. Yeah, that’s amazing. Have to give your mom credit for staying beside your Yes, she’s a superhero, Superman. Yeah.
And my dad, both of them, my whole family, they they were so supportive and they were you know, just knowing that they were there waiting for me and they gave me the strength that I needed the resources. It was a tough decision for my mom and dad to take that day to on their, you know, the doctors. They didn’t give the green light to my mom to take me away. They told her if you take her away it’s a it’s a Whatever happened to you. It’s on you. But she knew when she met my cousin that was the undertaker that was there waiting. She knew that she had to take
it’s that choice or or take a risk? Yeah, yeah. This shows tough decisions. So your friend Alfie stayed there. And that’s where she stayed in the Greek hospital. She stayed there, she was more severely injured. Although the numbers are different of the injuries. She had more burns on her torso. So her organs were more affected. And that’s maybe this is a good opportunity to say how important clothes are because I was wearing coat on a coat and dress. And she was wearing synthetic clothes. And that makes a difference that made that made a lot of difference when it comes to heating.
Yes, and I understand and a house fires and things like that. It’s important what kind of pajamas you have on or, or the sheets on your bed and how all of that burns. less or more depending on what you’re around. Very interesting.
Everything matters. Everything from clothing from every single moment. All the decisions that we make, we don’t know. But they might make a difference when the time comes. All the layers all the little decisions.
Yes, absolutely. And after that you survived and beautifully. Amazingly.
And you It took me it took a very it took me a while pain a few years to stating I stayed in the UK away from my family away from my husband, my own my business. My dad, my mom was there 24 seven next to me, she was actually my caregiver, she had to have someone next to me. I had to relearn everything from started, I had to relearn how to how to hold the fork and the spoon to eat, how to walk. I was in a wheelchair for four months before I was able to stand up doctors were saying that they were going to amputate my hand, my right hand, they were going to amputate my right foot. They were going to amputate my nose. There was an amazing team behind my recovery that they are. They are responsible for my recovery. Actually, I want to thank them it’s a Broomfield Hospital in the St. Andrew’s Hospital in Broomfield in the UK. And I just want to take this moment to big thank you to all the medical staff that were by my side and gave me this second chance in life.
But it’s really amazing when you get a wonderful team like that.
Yes. And I have to say also that I had the one of my guests on my podcast was one of the nurses that looked after me the ICU 20 years old. Yeah. Oh, wow. It was amazing to have her there on my on my podcast. It was amazing.
Oh, wow. I’ll have to listen to that one. I will have your podcast links down below. So no worries there people for forever. All of our listeners know, don’t worry, she we will make sure your podcast is there to listen to other stories. Yeah, and then you went back home to Greece eventually
went eventually, two years later, I went when I returned home. And it was as I said a long, long long process their recovery and I was still having surgeries to this day, I still need the surgeries. But last year I had one booked for March but because of the pandemic, we cancelled it but I still need to do another surgery. And so big surgery actually will take me about two months to recover from that. And then after the two months, I’ll probably need another six months of precise things that I need to follow every day to fully recover. So it’s a it’s a process of two years and then I was going back and forth to the UK having more operations and they’re trying to repair my hands because they’re very injured and I don’t have full movement anymore. I can still use Use them like I did a lot of work on my own to recover as best as I could. So I can win back my life knowing I had to leave. Life is precious. And we have to enjoy it as much as we can. The way more Yes, yes, I am unfortunate I consider myself although I went through this very fortunate because I can see, I can see how it could end up like my friends. And to this day, I still I see it. It’s very difficult to accept what happened to them.
Yes, absolutely. It’s like a mother, you know, you don’t care so much about what happened to yourself. It’s what happened to your kids, or your friends, for that matter. So it’s the same kind of feeling. So what happened with them? You know, what happened? Do you still have any relationship with the kids?
Unfortunately, no, it’s, you know, when you when you lose someone, and it’s unfair, it’s unfair. So obviously, the family doesn’t want to have anything to do with us, our course. And I can totally understand that. So we went through a very difficult five years, five years, maybe six years period with court cases, and because he was responsible, my husband, and like all the court cases, it takes forever to end. Yeah. So I think it was about six or seven years after the accident that finally the cold cases came to an end. And my husband had to go to jail because of this accident. And it’s another story. It doesn’t, it doesn’t end he doesn’t end and having going through a cold case for an accident that you didn’t, you didn’t cause it on purpose. Although you were responsible people, they don’t go to jail, at least not in Greece. They don’t go to jail. But in our case, he didn’t show any remorse.
So he continued to overspeed all those driving, and they were proof about that. So that’s why he ended up in jail. And I don’t know if he’s still our marriage just collapsed. And it wasn’t because of the accident itself. But what the accident brought in our life later, yes, that caused our marriage to collapse. And I’m very well with that. At the beginning, it was very difficult because of all my insecurity and all my all these different feelings that I had. And I didn’t know I lost my identity. I didn’t know where I was going. Yeah, life just wasn’t the same. It had nothing. It was nothing like I used to know it before the accident. No, absolutely. The people around you well as yourself.
We made we we went through I went through an emotional roller coaster. Yeah, trying to comprehend how, how to how this happened and how I can continue living. He was he was very difficult, very difficult in so many levels, emotionally, physically, mentally. I felt, I’m still feeling kind of responsible for what happened because he was my my husband that was driving was our vehicle. And I didn’t say anything. And so it’s very, very difficult to to accept everything that happened. So we don’t have any I don’t have any contact with a family. I wish I could. But the children are now grownups and I hope they’re well, as much as they can be after leaving without their parents. They were left orphans and they were only four and eight years old. Two boys so horrific, just horrific. And I don’t want anyone anyone to go through what they went through. Yes, they shouldn’t. Because these, these accidents can be prevented. So they shouldn’t go through what they went through.
Yes, absolutely. Did. What did you find afterwards then when you started your rehabilitation, look at you now. You know, you’re out talking about it. You’re you’re living your best life. I think you know, you’re remarried.
Am I remarried? Yes. Now in Canada? Well, I tried. I tried to go back to work after my, my, I recovered, kind of from the injuries but going back and forth to the hospital, having operation after a surgery after surgery and going through the process of recovering again from the new surgery that took another three, four months to recover.
It wasn’t easy to get back to work. Yeah. And then I was diagnosed with cancer as well. Oh, my goodness. Yeah. It’s like a domino effect, right? If something goes wrong, everything goes wrong. So I was diagnosed with cancer about four years after my accident, four years and a few months after my accident, and I had to have four surgeries in less than a year for that. I am good. I’m healthy. I’m very fortunate again. Cuz I had no symptoms. We I was just lucky that I found out that I had a tumor. I wait. I’m good. But that was like a wake up call for me. And it was when I was going through that process that I decided I can’t be with that man anymore, because I saw more bells ringing that what have you Yeah. Just I talked, I talked about that yesterday’s and yesterday’s live show, about how you have these different people on your shoulder. And sometimes this one will say, yeah, Tina, it’s all fine. You can do it. And this one says, Don’t Don’t try. Don’t do it. Don’t do it.
I don’t know about little people. But my inner voice was saying meal. You can you can make it on your own. You need to be where you are now you and then just one day, I just flip the switch. And I said no Enough is enough. That’s it. That’s it. And I found happiness again. Just it was magical. burden lifted off my shoulders when I when I made that decision. And I didn’t even know that, that I would feel that way.
And then he kept on hitting you with more and more and saying, Are you going to wake up yet? Are you going to wake up?
I finally did. It took me a while. And again, I lost a lot of things. But I did.
Yes. I don’t know where we have to lose things to get its lessons. It’s what happens. It’s life. Actually, this is life. And the main thing is to learn from our lessons and our mistakes from the mistakes that I’ve made. We made so we don’t repeat them. Yes, that’s what I want with the podcast, my podcast to share my message. So people learn from my mistakes from other people mistakes that they made, because we’re showing a lot of real stories. Yes. And maybe maybe motivate them to not make our story their story. So this these mistakes are not repeated.
Yeah, cuz you wouldn’t want to have to do that one over again with you. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Now even I don’t wish even on my worst enemy and I don’t have any new enemies anyway. But yeah, no one should experience what my family what my friends families experienced. And then what I experience. Yes, no one no one. No strength of your mom. Yeah. Yeah, she’s the real hero on this, isn’t she? She’s She’s a survivor, as well. Looking. like watching your child in the situation that I was. I don’t know how she did it. Thank you. Yes. Thank you. I love you. Yes. Imagine how hard that would be. Yeah. I can only imagine. I don’t want to feel it anyway. Ever, ever?
Yes, absolutely. Nobody does. That’s for sure. So you have your podcast and now you’re doing some art with your kind of weird. Well, the thing is that when we were still in the hospital for my recovery, the doctors were saying to my mom, you have to make her use her hands because I was through I was going through denial process. I didn’t want to do anything at some point. And she they kept on saying she needs to use her hands. She needs to use her hand. So my mom she’s an artist herself. amazing artist who makes lovely paintings. She took me one day and she see got me to a hobby shop. I’m trying to find something, something that would keep me occupied.
Just to remind us Life after a car accident makes you realize how precious life is to make that impact, that euphony moment, changes your life forever
So I can fix stuff with my hands and use them. And we I ended up with canvases and paint brushes and colors acrylics and stuff. And that’s how I started painting. And what I found was that it wasn’t only helping me physically because I was using my hands, but it did help me mentally and emotionally because it was soothing me. Although it was painful, it was hurting, using my hands. It did help me with my emotions, with your inner your inner soul. It kind of like a it took everything out of my mind. And I could leave the moment without thinking and thinking and, you know, it seemed It was a lot a lot to take in what I was dealing with. Yeah, that moment. So it reached out. He was my therapy. It was my therapy after my physiotherapy at the hospital. So that’s why I continued, I just love love creating. And what really helped me most was you know, I couldn’t use my hands.
So I felt worthless. If I felt like my life ended. What can I do? I can’t even get dressed on my own. I can’t even feed myself, I can’t even do my the basics. I needed help for everything. And then with the struggle, but I did from nothing, I created something. And that gave me the strength to continue day by day, day by day. And that’s how I want back my life. Because art did help me to beautiful to accept that it happened but you can still you can still create stuff. So move on and create beautiful things. What do you like to specialize drawing? Trees, I love trees. I love trees. And I have also collection though it’s my story through art that I have painted the few pieces that they represent my story size. Interesting. Nice. Oh, people can go on my web page and check it out.
Absolutely. That’s beautiful. And trees. Uh, do you like flowers too? Do you like doing flowers? Or are there anything?
Oh, I love I love doing landscape. I yeah, I love I love everything. I do portraits. I do animals. I do. landscapes, trees. Anything, anything that inspires me, you could be a rock, anything that I can find that it’s something that gives me the drive to pick up my pencils or my brushes that inspires me. Yes, banana trees is a very close to my heart. But I do all sort of soften. People can see different stuff on my web page.
Oh, cool. I think some of those wonderful Greek architecture that they have there would be awesome, too.
Yep. Yep. That would be fine. Yes, Greece, it’s he has some pretty pretty nice designs that you can use for art. And colors. Lots of blue and white. Like our flag. Yeah. it’ll fall. It’s very beautiful. What would you like to? It’s quite the story, everybody. I just feel like I just fall right into the story. Like, like you’re reading it. It’s very beautiful. Well, the story’s beautiful. But your your life was not so beautiful for a while, but it is now and you have a new husband. Yeah. And I’m so happy for you.
Yes, he’s also a burn survivor. And he’s workplace safety speaker. So he he also got his burns from an accident that happened in his while he was working. So he’s trying to raise awareness on that, like, we need to be cautious. We need to be aware of the dangerous we need to put our safety and the safety of others first. Yes. So avoid all these accidents that can be prevented because most of the accidents can be prevented. So that’s the main thing. That’s what I want the listeners to take away from our conversation. Those accidents that we can plan so don’t happen and take all the safety measures that we need. Don’t speed. Don’t text while you’re drive. Don’t drink when you’re going to drive. Just be aware of what you have to do. Drive to get from A to B safe not from life to The Yes, is not the truth, because you can help others people around you, but you can help yourself.
Yes, definitely. I just seen that. If we are taking the consideration our safety, we will be, we will, you know, be aware of the safety of all the other people that are moving around us, whether it’s on the road, whether it’s in the workplace, just safety has to be our main focus. Right?
Did you have any final messages that you’d like to give the listeners, I just want them to enjoy life, enjoy life, predict, predict what the future can match as much as they can for those of those little things that we can predict. and be prepared. Be prepared to, for all the unexpected things that might happen, and just try to be safe. Things can happen in one split second, if they can remember that, I think, yeah, we can also predict and be prepared, especially when you’re younger. And I guess even when you’re older, that doesn’t seem to matter. Sometimes everyone’s just in a hurry, and in a rush. And that’s so true, do weird things. And it’s like when you come home and you put your keys in a different place that you don’t normally put them, you lose them. And it’s all of these little things that remind you maybe if something isn’t working out, maybe you shouldn’t be going or maybe you know, strange things are kind of telling us all the time.
And yeah, that is true what you say. Just I think it’s difficult for the young young people to plan and be aware. But I also believe that listening to real stories from people, and maybe maybe just plan the idea that, okay, I am not, I am not Superman, as you said before, and there has to be more cautious when I’m doing some stuff because we hear all day, every day. Because I follow road safety, of course, and I’m a member of many groups. Every day I hear about accidents. And the sad thing is that people from their early 20s are the most people affected by destructive driving and speeding and you know, all that stuff that we do when we never thought that it would anything would happen.
Yeah, the risk. Yeah, no, the risk is well, that’s. Yeah, that’s awesome. Well, thank you so much. I don’t want to end it. I don’t want to end our show. Because your your story is, it’s just so heartfelt that it is truly a raw conversation today. Because thank you for being courageous and brave and coming out and telling others it’s it’s truly beautiful and very healing for people.
I just hope that people that are listening, learn something and that that will keep them safe in the future.
Yes, absolutely. Well, thank you. Thank you for coming on the show today. It’s that time again, guys. I can’t believe that. Where’s the time gone? Wow, um, expect the unexpected. Because you never know what tomorrow my brain I hope that we’ve inspired you and motivated you and, and giving you some thought words of wisdom from our guest. I she has so many stories to tell. You’re gonna have to write a book. It’s eating. It’s one of my plants. I’m working on it.
Yeah, absolutely. It’s beautiful. So thank you. Thank you so very much. You know, I I coach each and every one all the time and the risk of emergency preparedness. And because we don’t get out of this life alive, everybody. We don’t and it’s how we manage those storms that hit us. It’s It’s how we manage those and how we can move on to the next storm. Because sometimes we have one storm sometimes we have many. And it’s how we look after that and deal with the stresses and try to eliminate the unpreparedness because believe me, it sure helps when you’re a better person. Paired for things to occur. So thank you for coming out to our show today. It was beautiful. And thank you for your honesty and, and your storytelling. Thank you for having me and giving me this opportunity to share my story.
Absolutely. And I’ll have all I’ll make sure all her links are down below for our listeners. And thank you from Thunder Bay, Ontario. What changed from Greece? I can’t I still can’t fathom what that must feel like going from one hot to cold area. But yeah, I hear it is beautiful area. It’s very. I feel like the forest and the green and what you do is beautiful. It is beautiful. And it’s not that hard. And it is warm. Well, we did have 30 Celsius last week.
Yes, it gets hot and humid in the summertime. Yes. And so thank you, listeners. Thank you for all coming out to our show today. Thank you for watching. And I always end our podcast and our show with Carol Burnett. Because she’s such a beautiful comedian. I’m so glad that we had this time together just to have a laugh or sing a song seems we just get started. And before you know it comes a time we have to say so long. So long, everyone stay safe, be kind. And if you are listening to the show right now, and you have someone in your mind that you could reach out to today and tell them how much you love them and how much you care. Please do that. Because you don’t know what tomorrow may bring. So thank you for everyone. Lots of love.
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