WHY DON’T WE WANT TO TALK ABOUT DEATH?
Can we learn about talking about Death?
“Death today is like sex was for the Victorians. We know it occurs, we may even feel a prurient pleasure in hearing gruesome details, but most of us don’t want to talk about the prospect of our own deaths or of those ahead of us in the trenches – and certainly not in public. In the last few days I have read about an octogenarian “who slipped away with the light in the late afternoon,” a nonagenarian whose “peaceful passing into the spirit of the universe” was marked by “a glorious golden Southern California sunrise,” and the disappearance of “the best and brightest star in the sky” with the death in a car accident of a high-tech entrepreneur. ” says We are camouflaging morbidity in clichés: It’s time to talk about death by SANDRA MARTIN, Special to The Globe and Mail.
LEARN ABOUT WHY IT’S SO DIFFICULT TO TALK ABOUT DEATH
It’s complicated and very disturbing. To even think about ourselves in that position of having to think about our own death. It seems like it draws out of our inner being every little bit of energy and makes us unbalanced emotionally. It makes us feel upset and angry but frustrated because it is something we have no control over.
When we are suddenly told that we have to face it without any control of ourselves, we can feel separated from the family, and isolated. But,we certainly don’t want the family and friends around us to feel burdened by us, or feel less of us or even sorry for us.
All these emotions are typical and understandable.
But, what about planning. Can we plan for it? Well not if we don’t think about it or even think that it might happen.
We approach death with others with a stuttering effect in most cases. Not really sure what to say, or what not not to say. Stumbling over, ” I’m sorry for your loss”. What should you say?
Unfortunately, I could give you a series of statistics showing you that you will die, we just don’t know when so how can we approach this in a style that we can understand and appreciate?
- Life expectancy Age 78.8 avg age in USA, 81.2 in Canada, and 82 in Australia & France ( most people buy life insurance that expires at age 75)
- 75% of all deaths are caused by the Top 10 causes
- Heart disease is the #1 causes of death
- Cancer is the #2nd cause of death (highest in the pacific Northwest)
- Lung Disease is the #3rd cause of death
- Accidents #4th cause of death
- Stroke #5th cause of death
- Alzheimer’s #6th cause of death (highest in Washington state)
- Diabetes #7th cause of death
- Influenza & pneumonia #8th cause of death
- Kidney disease #9th cause of death
- Suicide #10th cause of death
LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH AGES 1-44
1 person every 3 minutes die from an injury. The other injured, millions are injured and survive. They are faced with life-long mental, physical, and financial problems.
- Motor Vehicle Accidents
- Prescription overdoses
- Fall injuries
- Sports injuries
- Heart Disease
According to 2013 statistic worldwide
Can we do some planning for injury or death looking at the statistics, I think we should. Perhaps in a logical manner, making sure we have things organized for ourselves in case we were faced with an issue where we needed some help from others. What kinds of things can we put in place where someone close to us can help us out. We might be sick or injured, so what do we want to have happen?
What about death, what kinds of things can we organize for our loved ones? Can we let them know about our finances, our toys, or real estate and maybe if we are lucky our wishes.
If we want to think about that at all. Please do, we know it will happen according to statistics.
A little planning will help out.
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