WHEN THE DAUGHTER NEEDS TO BECOME THE PARENT
Speaking with Shannon was intriguing and heavy hearted all at the same time. After Shannon lost her mom in 2014, she then lost her dad from a tragic heart attack in 2015. But, remember Shannon is only a young Mom herself with 2 kids and not quite ready for what is about to happen.
She had a totally different perspective on the parent and child relationship. It’s not suppose to happen like this, she had to step up to be the parent in one foul swoop.
A FEW OF SHANNON’S STRUGGLES
Things that Shannon struggled with was the emotional stress that she had to have it together, for the little part of the funeral arrangements but more importantly the kids.
After the funeral stuff was completed she had to go into over-drive. Going to the house and hoping to find paperwork, and needed answers to whole lot of questions!
But, of course that didn’t happen quite like that.
After 1 year has gone by, Shannon is still struggling with having to pay her Dad’s mortgage because she couldn’t afford to pay her place as well as his mortgage, so she moved into his place.
Her dad’s mortgage stays open, her Dad’s vehicle, his truck and travel trailer sits until probate is completed. So many catches to everything.
In 1 year Shannon said, “I have put out $20,000 to maintain the costs and fees, utilities, mortgage, storage so far. “
SHANNON’S STORY AND HER DILEMMA
“I do and I don’t know why this little video had me in tears just now, but the reality is this shock to the system happened twice, back to back and with little to no warning.
Tina approached me a while back in hopes of checking in, hearing my story and offering me the security of preventing the same stress and pain from hitting the people that I love. It took me a long time to prepare and tell her I was ready to chat. She was so understanding with me.
My generation, and even those 10-15 years older than me have NO idea how long and drawn out this process is. When someone dies or becomes unable to tend to their previous responsabilities, the paperwork seems endless. The errands doubling up with your own – the legalities.
You’re going to make mistakes. You’re going to want to crawl into that bunker until the apocalypse passes but you have to be ON, constantly.
This process of first disability, followed by two deaths was so much more than crying at their bedside as you squeeze their cold hand for the last time and wonder how you’ll go on from that moment. It’s so much more than food at the funeral and standing up to speak on someone’s behalf… no, no.
Then you walk into their house for the first time and what comes to mind? Turning around and asking them all the questions you need answered. .. but they’re not there and never will be again to answer them. And the scavenger hunt begins…
Tina just released her App for smart phones and iphones that will give your Power of attorney or your executor and loved ones everything you could possibly leave behind for them while they grieve.
I really encourage everyone to take a look. I’ll post a few links for it today.
And stay safe everyone.
Thank you Tina for the interview and understanding!” , Shannon.
Developer & Creator | Your Backup Plan
I have watched too many families go through the unspeakable trauma of a family emergency or loss of life.
Being left to deal with the realities of those moments is overwhelming for most everyone.
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